– The most cryptic part. In online slang, a “top” (from LGBTQ+ and BDSM lexicons) is the more active or dominant partner in a dynamic. The “B” could stand for “bottom” (making “B top” an oxymoron), or more likely, it stands for “benign top” – someone who takes the lead in initiating low-effort hangs but without any expectation of reciprocity. In free use friendships, the B top is the person who says, “I’m going to the park at 3 PM. Be there or don’t. I won’t be bothered either way.”
This manifesto has been screenshotted, memed, and argued over thousands of times in 2024. Critics call it narcissistic. Proponents call it honest. cant be bothered a free use friendship 2024 b top
Can't Be Bothered! (A Free-Use Friendship) * Episode aired Jun 2, 2024. * 30m. – The most cryptic part